If you and your spouse or partner are breaking up, how you talk to each other and to your children can make a big difference. Try to think about the other parent as a business partner. Acting "businesslike" might help get your mind off the pain and stress so you can focus better on your children.
Here are some tips:
- Be polite, just like you would be at work.
- Stay on the subject. Focus on doing what is best for your child.
- Control your emotions, just like you would do at work.
- Be clear and specific when you talk to the other parent. Write things down and keep businesslike records of important agreements.
- Keep your promises. Your children need to be able to trust and rely on you. This is very important right now.
- Watch the words you use when you talk about separation or divorce.
If you are parents who have decided to end your marriage and want to help your children during this difficult time, there are many resources available. One website that might be helpful to you is: http://www.kidsturn.org/.
For some suggestions about where to get other help, go to the California Court's Self-Help Center or check out one of the sites below:
Resources in California
- All Superior Courts in California by County
- State Bar of California's Find an Attorney Web site
- Free and Low-Cost Legal Help
- Where to write for vital records
Resources Across the USA
- Find government services and information by topic
- Find organizations in other states that provide free legal assistance to eligible clients.
Resources Around the Globe
- Find organizations in other countries that provide free legal assistance to eligible clients.